RA: Have Realistic Expectations About Relationships and Romance

"True love — that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy — is a choice."

One of the things I realized from being in a relationship with Babycakes is that I seek sweet gestures. I tend to initiate it, like sending daily funny pick up lines or saying things that would (hopefully) make him feel loved or giddy; something that would positively add to his day. However, if it's not reciprocated, I would completely abandon my efforts. It's wrong, I know because 1) it would become a routine; 2) it's not something I should expect from a partner especially if it's not in their character to do so; 3) it's not realistic which is why I managed my expectations and learned that relationships aren't always romantic.

I don't think we would have lasted five years if we expected each other to be romantic all the damn time. This form of love -- past the honeymoon phase love -- no whisper in your ears love -- done with watching you sleep all night love -- is far more difficult to maintain but still fulfilling because at the end of the day, you have a partner who will fight your insecurities with, go on adventures with, drink until you puke then take care of them, and doing the same for them.